August 16, 2016

CALIFORNIA & MADDIE DID NOT MIX!

The title of this blog post pretty much sums it up...California & Maddie equaled, no bueno!!!

I'm just going to get right into it and share while it is still pretty fresh in my mind...


Leading up to the trip she had been all smiles and excited to ride on an airplane!!!

We had a direct flight from SGF-----> to LAX, so there wouldn't be lay overs and we could just get right to California. Mind you, I went through all the snacks with her, she played/watched all the episodes of cartoons downloaded on the ipad! When it was time to land and the plane starts to descend down, your ears start getting plugged and need to pop, well that was the first time she started to loose it...

I was having her open her mouth all the way and say, "aaahhhhh"...
Chew a piece of gum...
She wanted to put her headphones back on with the volume loud...
Screaming that she couldn't hear....

the list goes on...

(Maddie has flown before but never really complained about her ears etc., she was actually more well behaved than this and I flew by myself last time with the kids too!)


But she quickly got over it when she say Bryce at the curbside pickup, who we hadn't seen in about 2 weeks due to spending time with Grandparents.

Right after this picture was taken she told me she missed her brother... 

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One major thing about children with Autism is there isn't a physical characteristic each kid has to have that indicates to people that they have special needs. 

Majority of our kids look normal...yet they have so many special needs and each child with A.S.D. is different. It's not a one size fits all...

Sometimes (or a lot of times...) it looks like our kids are being bratty, we don't know how to handle our child or you are just giving into them...you need to be more strict...



When majority of people look at Maddie, they see a cute little first grader, who is tall & skinny and has ABSOLUTELY no idea what she has gone through!!!


or me for that matter...I have been on this long roller coaster ride for 6 years and it has been a lot of work to get her to this point!

and to see it all starting to unravel when we were in California was #1 scary and #2 eye opening to see how far she has come since living in Missouri!


Here in Missouri it's quiet...
There's no traffic...
She is not visually being over stimulated....
The air is cleaner
She doesn't have to see a lot of people when home...
Her day & schedule is pretty routine...
There is not a lot of different smells...
(sounds funny but she picks up on that)

This all seems really silly but all those things combined is what Maddie was thrown into in California and it was just too much and I never really noticed how much it affected her until we came back this time.

Like I said before...it was eye opening, although it wasn't fun for me to go though all the melt downs...:)

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This was the wedding rehearsal and she pretty much screamed the whole time saying that she was hungry...but she wasn't, she just knew we would have to leave to get something to eat and she wanted to get out of there.

She also was tired of "everyone looking at her...?" Although it was people saying Hi to her or not even looking at her and this is when I thought, Oh boy, how is she going to make it through the wedding...?

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The next day was of course the wedding and she wasn't having none of it.

So I made the decision, although everyone wanted her to come, to let her stay with my in laws for the rest of the day & that night and they were more than happy to spend time with her since they don't get to see her very often.

In a perfect world I would of loved to have her there!

Thank God I had the foresight to have her stay with them because there wouldn't of been anyway she would of made it through the wedding, or me.


The next day when I picked her up she was perfectly fine and then totally fell apart...

She was ready to go and having the BIGGEST MELTDOWN I have seen in years!!!
(In the car)

She was not acting herself....
I hadn't seen this side of her in years...
Where was my Maddie...this was not her...

Maddie expressed it loud and clear to me...she was done! 

Of course in the picture above she looked fine eating her burrito but, this was after me sitting in the car with her for 30 minutes having a meltdown and refusing to get back in her seat! :) 

The next two days I just let her be and made sure she had a lot of quiet time, giving her her space and letting her play by herself.
(Naomi & Holly leaving her alone.)

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The plane ride home...


I couldn't of said it better myself, haha

The plane ride home was not ideal, it was exhausting and within 45 minutes of the 3 hour flight having to have "words" with a particular lady that was clearly annoyed by Maddie on the plane and the lady in front ripping over the seat to ask if I can keep her quiet!!!

On the grand scale of things...I think I did pretty well keeping her quiet, she didn't have a complete meltdown or start crying so I consider that a win!?!!


I was using everything I had in my arsenal to try and keep her quiet...even if my new makeup brush took a beating, haha!

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I know this post may have been a little choppy and this post may have not been for everyone but for me...it was a must. I wanted to document this while it was still fresh and to let you all know that those ladies didn't slow me down one bit! Parents of Autistic children can handle waaaay more than that...#byefelicia


If I took anything from this trip (regarding Maddie) it would be how much Maddie has grown and thrives living in Missouri.  How the fast-paced life of Southern California and everything that is going on all the time hinders Maddie from being the best Maddie that she could be.

 This is apart of Madison's journey with Autism and Missouri agrees with her...


4 comments:

  1. Jade, you are doing an excellent parenting job with Maddy!! I was proud of you when you put that airline passenger in her place. Don't mess with Momma Bear...

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  2. Maddy has the best mamma!! Missouri is Maddy's perfect place. Even though I wish she was closer!

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    1. I wish you guys were closer too!

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