Here are a few things that have put extra strain on our marriage that we have worked through:
Having a baby in our early-early 20s.
The death of a child.
Having a child in the hospital for 5 months, frequent hospital stays after that.
Raising our daughter, who has Autism. (high functioning)
Moving from CA to MO with little to no family, and zero friends at the beginning.
Balancing running a business where you live.
So as you can see there, that's some pretty major sh*t right...and we are still going strong, if not better than ever!
So let's start by saying I'm the type A and Jer is the steady ship, nothing rocks him too much. (That good for a type A right?)
It also helps if you know each other's love languages. Mine are acts or service with a little positive affirmations and Jer's is quality time.
Here are some tips (learned) we've benefited from:
Take accountability for your actions, say your sorry if your wrong and be a work in progress.
Also the catch me up chat with what's going on whether it be with the kids, life, work, things that are bothering you etc., communicate!
Those are some of the ways we keep our marriage going strong, it hasn't always been easy but, when you both are working toward the same goal somehow you get there faster.