Hi friends, today I am excited to share with you the 7 Steps to finding your Happiness!
Over the past year I’ve really been working on leading a happier, more content life. Learning what really makes me happy, working on my anxiety and my faith. Putting some of my needs first because I believe, especially for Moms, if we don’t take care of ourselves, how can we care for others: our spouse, kids, parents, family etc.
Happiness is a practice, waking up happy-positive and grateful is something we all have to work on. For me it’s easy to slip into a negative-nothing’s going right funk or feeling parental guilt that I’m not doing enough with or for the kids. Or not feeling so great about myself, but you know what, it’s all mental!
Two of the biggest things I’ve learned is we have to give ourselves grace and that I am in charge of my thoughts. I am in charge of what I think about and what I decide to focus my day on.
I am not a health & wellness coach, but these are the 7 steps that I’ve been practicing to lead a more happy, content and grateful life. (In no particular order)
Inspiration is the process of being mentally stimulated to do or feel something and the way I find that comes in many forms…
•Watching inspirational videos on YouTube. Some of my favorite people to watch are Brené Brown, Tony Robbins, Shannon Kaiser, Amy Landino, just to name a few.
One of the stand outs for me is Brené Brown, she talks about being brave, having courage, daring greatly and being vulnerable. I’m sure you’ve heard of her!
Below is one of her favorite quotes by Theodore Roosevelt and I love the metaphor of the person that’s in the arena. For me it’s like, don’t judge the person that’s out there in it, don’t judge from the sidelines, because you know what…at least he’s trying!
If you are one of the people that are in “the arena” and being judged, hey-more power to you, because you are doing it. This should inspire you!
•Make a vision board so you have something visual to focus on! Like old school poster board, scissors, glue/tape, cutting things out of magazines or printing things off the internet. You can make it focused towards things you want to accomplish in life, how you want to feel, your favorite quotes, summer goals/bucket lists, experiences or even a health & fitness board. Vision boards are powerful. Place it where you will see it often!
•Read or listen to audio books that you can learn or grow from! I am guilty of not reading enough, but I am trying to work on that and if you’re not a reader than maybe an audio book could be your thing.
The book I just finished was by Rachel Hollis called, Girl, Wash your Face. In this book she helps her readers break free from the lies that are keeping them from leading a more joy filled life they’re meant to have.
Practicing gratitude helps us to be thankful for what we have or experience right in front of us.
“The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.”
I practice gratitude by writing in my gratitude journal. It’s actually a calendar from Erin Condren and where it gives you a few lines for each day, that’s where I write what I was thankful for. I really try to not make it about “things”, instead I try for it to be more about experiences or moments. Like being thankful that I took time for myself to workout or rode bikes with the kids after dinner, etc.
You can use a notebook, a calendar like I am or an actual gratitude journal like this one.
3. A Morning Routine.
A good morning routine can help frame your day. Setting your alarm to get up a little earlier, enjoying a cup of coffee or tea and reading a daily devotional can be the perfect start to your day.
If you’re like me and have kids, then that little bit of quiet time before their feet hit the ground can make all the difference.
4. Health & Fitness
I know for me, when I workout or take a nice walk, I feel so much better during the day and about myself.
When I eat right I have more energy throughout the day and don’t feel that afternoon slump. For me that’s limiting sugar, breads, watching my portions and focusing on drinking more water during the day. We all need to drink more water!
You don’t have to do some crazy workout plan or crazy extreme dieting, but it’s important to take care of yourself. The way you take care of your body is the way your body is going to take care of you!
Living with less is important because we don’t need things to feel happy or content. This sort of loops back to gratitude because we don’t need more and more things to be happy. We can be happy with the stuff we already have. But when we have a lot of clutter and stuff piled around us, it’s hard to focus on everything we already have in front of us.
Go thru your clothes and a week later, go thru them again. Go thru your junk drawers, your hall closets, your kids’ toy boxes, etc. you will feel better when you have less.
Another thing that’s important is to set boundaries for social media and phone usage. Give yourself breaks from social media because what we tend to do is compare our lives to others or feel inadequate because we aren’t living like the people we are following.
Unfollow people that make you feel negative about yourself!
6. Don’t be so critical
Don’t be so critical on yourself. We are so quick to judge ourselves but we give compliments out to friends & strangers. We all need to practice more self love. I know I’m guilty of teaching the kids this, but not always doing it myself.
Don’t be so critical and judgmental about other people too. Especially by the way they dress or by what they drive. Some of the most judgmental people are the ones driving the nice cars and wearing the fancy clothes. We all can be a little more empathetic and think about what we say or how it may affect the other person.
When you are filling your mind with criticism you’re taking up space where you can be thinking about positive and motivating thoughts.
Mantras are little positive phrases you say repeatedly. Like, I can do this, I can do this, I can do this…
Sometimes saying a positive mantra in your head makes all the difference in completing a task that scares or challenges you.
For me I just did my first 5 hour road trip by myself with the kids and when I started out I kept saying, “I am strong, I can do this. I am strong, I can do this.” I took a deep breath, counted backwards 5-4-3-2-1, took another deep breath and drove off.
“When you start counting five, four, three, two, one-you awaken your prefrontal cortex. You begin the process of changing. You push yourself in a new direction.”
Positive self talk is important and remember we control our thoughts. As much as I let my anxious mind run wild, most times I need to take a deep breath and tell myself that everything will be okay.
Here’s something I learned: the healing is done when you get below the surface. It’s the answers you are scared of or afraid to feel and admit. You need to ask yourself the why questions, because if you never get to that point, you are never able to break free and you keep dragging along the past.
Those are my 7 Steps to Finding Your Happiness. If you are on a similar journey, my hope is for you to at least practice more gratitude for what you already have in your life.
I really enjoyed creating and sharing this blog post with you guys, I worked really hard on it.
Have a great day and remember tomorrow is always a new day, a chance at a clean slate!